no thank you

Is saying thank you that hard? Apparently it is. Witness:

  • A professor at another institution contacted me because someone at her institution went to a presentation I did and thought I might be able to help her with something she was working on. She asked me some questions, I answered them, and I thought that was the end of it. The next day, she called me and basically said, “I don’t have time to deal with this, I need you to do it.” I politely told her I didn’t have time. The next day, she called again, again telling me she “needed” me to follow up on something. Hello—I don’t work for her or with her. I was doing her a goddamn favor! She called me six times in all and emailed a couple times—I helped as much as I could, given that I have a job and have my own tasks to keep me busy. I was as polite as I could be, given the circumstances. After all that, did I get a thank you? No. As far as I can tell, she’s pissed off at me for not “helping” her more (i.e. doing her job for her).
  • A student at my institution who is not actually my student brought me a very long and troubled draft for a class he is in. He said he would appreciate my feedback on it because he had heard that I “give good comments.” So I spent an hour reading and responding to the paper and emailed him my comments. I saw him several times in the days following and he never said a word about the paper. Finally, I said, “Did you receive my emailed comments?” He said, “Oh, yeah.” Just like that. No thank you. No acknowledgement that I did something nice.

It’s not like I want people to fawn all over me and thank me for every little damn thing I do, but come on, people, if I go out of my way for you, couldn’t you at least acknowledge what I’ve done with two simply little words???

Published in: on November 26, 2007 at 8:39 pm  Leave a Comment